Tuesday, September 19, 2023

Day 1,591 - Ellie's Eyes

You know what’s frustrating sometimes about being a parent? You can think that you know the right answer about a topic and then find out later on that you were mistaken. Often times this can rear its ugly head when one is dealing with the topic of medical care for one’s children.

As I’m sure many people have noticed over the past few years, Ellie wears glasses. Personally, I’ve become so accustomed to seeing my daughter in her glasses that it looks weird at bedtime when she’s not wearing them. Ellie herself is so used to the feel of them on her face that she occasionally tries to go to bed at night while still wearing them. No, it doesn’t hurt anything but it probably isn’t very comfortable!

The reason for Ellie’s glasses has less to do with her slight prescription and more to do with the fact that she has one eye that tends to drift away from the center of her line of sight. The glasses were actually prescribed to help keep that occurring and they’ve been doing a great job. As a parent, the longer I can put off the idea of my daughter having surgery, the better.

Of course, part of Ellie’s condition means that we have to go to the eye doctor for checkups a couple of times a year to confirm that everything is doing well. For the past two years, those checkups have been at Children’s Mercy. While I can’t say enough nice things about the doctors there, I have to say that billing and insurance has been a complete nightmare. Any time she’s had a visit, it’s taken us months to sort out the financials of said visit. Not fun at all!

After our last issue as Children’s Mercy, we decided that maybe it wouldn’t be the worst thing in the world to get a second opinion. Therefore, that’s exactly what we decided to do beginning with Ellie’s next eye exam, which coincidentally, was this morning. The new eye doctor of choice, Vision Source, right on North Oak a scant mile from our house. Ellie had actually been seen by them when she was one for a free infant vision screening. In addition, she’s always had her glasses made there so we were familiar with the establishment.

Upon our arrival today, we headed back to the exam room where Ellie received a glaucoma test (much to her massive chagrin) and had an image of her eye taken. From there, we headed back to the exam room where we would remain for much of the next hour and a half. Why do I know it was an hour and a half? Well, because we were able to watch almost all of Lilo & Stitch in between checks of her eyes. The biggest reason for that delay was that Ellie’s eyes just would not dilate the way they were supposed to. In fact, she eventually had to have additional drops put in (her favorite!) just to get them ready for examination. Finally, it was time to see the doctor!

Once the doctor came in, she checked Ellie over thoroughly and said that her eyes looked very healthy. However, she was able to see the drift that we had been having checked out regularly and essentially told us that we would be better off continuing to take Ellie to Children’s Mercy to keep tabs on it. The biggest reason why was that Children’s Mercy would be the ones to have to do surgery, if necessary, so it was better that they continue playing a role in her care.

I can’t say just how discouraging this was. As parents, we definitely had reached a point of intense frustration with our child’s medical care only to learn that there was really nothing else we could do. I guess the lone saving grace here is that Ellie’s situation is extremely mild and nothing serious. Regardless, it’s not much fun to convince ourselves we were doing the right thing by doing something different only to find out that we were doing the right thing in the first place.

That’s clear as mud, right?

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